Young Orthodox Mail

YO-Mail Issue #23 -- 15 September 1999

In this issue:

  • From the Office: We're back and we've got lots to tell you!
  • Food for the Soul: "We love, because He first loved us."
  • An Orthodox Look: Ben Fold Five: The Unauthorized Biography of Reinhold Messner
  • On the Calendar: No events submitted
  • In the News: Youth and Young Adults Make Commitment at 12th All-American Council
  • Real Questions, Real Answers: Tattoos and Piercings

    Readers Write ...

  • Nothing submitted for this issue


    From the Office:

    We're Back and We've Got Lots to Tell You!

    It's a new Church year (September 1 is the beginning of the Church year), a new school year, and we are back!

    Things have been real crazy at the OCA Youth Office (we'll be telling you about all the great things that are being planned for the next two years) We have a special note on the Youth and Young Adult Commitment at the OCA 12th All-American Council

    Some reminders.....

    Orthodox Christian Fellowships at Universities and Colleges across North America

    In cooperation with all the Orthodox Churches in North America, we maintain the directory of all OCFs across North America at www.oca.org/OCF.

    Whether you have an OCF at your school and want to make sure it's listed correctly, or you want to start an OCF and add it to our directory, send an e-mail to youth@oca.org with:

    We also have resources to help you.


    Food for the Soul

    1 John 4:12-19 (Epistle for the repose of St John the Theologian, September 26

    No one has seen God at any time. If we love one another, God abides in us, and His love has been perfected in us. By this we know that we abide in Him, and He in us, because He has given us of His Spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent the Son as Savior of the world. Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God. And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him. Love has been perfected among us in this: that we may have boldness in the day of judgment; because as He is, so are we in this world. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. We love Him because He first loved us.

    "God is love." So many thoughts and images come to mind when we think about the word "love."

    In fact, the word love has very different meanings depending on how we use it. We love our parents. We love our boyfriend or girlfriend. We love our friends. We even love pizza and/or roller coasters.

    In this short passage St. John, whom the Church calls the "Apostle of Love," gives us a strong reminder that the ultimate source of love is God Himself.

    Real love comes from Him only. Many times we wonder about what love really is, or to what extent we love someone. While love expresses itself in many ways (romantic love, brotherly love, etc.), it is always based upon the love God has shown us in His Son, Jesus. It is patient, kind, humble, rejoices in good, seeks not its own way, etc. Sound familiar? (1 Cor 13:4-8). The description St. Paul uses isn't based upon his personal opinion, but upon the life and work of our Savior, Jesus Christ.

    We have the ability to love only because He gave us that gift.

    For the Christian, a person can't love truly without knowing God. Likewise, a person cannot say he/she knows God if he/she does not love others here on earth in the same way He loves them. Sounds tough, huh? This is why we are always trying to repent (to turn ourselves in the right direction) from loving as society loves to loving as God loves.

    Some things to think about:

    "Lord, guide me to love as You do. Help me to see the difference between the world's love and Yours. Give me the strength to act on that love with those you put in my life. Amen."

    To read the life of St John the Theologian on the OCA Feasts & Saints pages, look at the entry for:


    Ben Fold Five: The Unauthorized Biography of Reinhold Messner

    This Ben Folds Five CD is full of old and new sounds ranging from 1990s musical theatre and lounge singing, to grunge and late 1970s pop, to name a few. The listener is taken on a journey of self-discovery, self-pity, love, and even hope and renewal.

    While perhaps not for everyone, those who like to think about the "meaning of things" will enjoy an almost "theatrical" experience.

    On the up side:

    On the down side:


    On the Calendar

    No events submitted

    To advertise your event here send information to: youth@oca.org


    In the News

    Youth and Young Adults Make Commitment at 12th All-American Council

    Over 200 youth and young adults came together in Pittsburgh, PA for the Orthodox Church in America's 12th All-American Council (AAC). During a fun-packed and spiritually intensive week of activities, the youth and young adults committed themselves to help realize the "Dream for the Church" that was drafted in 1995 at the 11th AAC in Chicago.

    The group decided to focus on four areas for the next three areas:

    1. becoming members of the Church who know and are prepared to explain their faith,
    2. helping their churches become places which are growing, where all are welcome,
    3. becoming members who reach out to the community, and
    4. helping laity and clergy work together within their own church and among area churches.

    The group then called on all the youth and young adults of the Orthodox Church in North America to join them in their mission.

    The statement can be found at www.oca.org/aac and is linked from the OCA Youth Page.


    Real Questions, Real Answers!

    Tattoos and Piercings

    Q. Dear OCA Youth,

    I am a liberal arts college student and find multiple ear piercings and small, simple tattoos attractive. I would like to have the question of body piercing and tattoos answered once and for all -- where does one cross the line with such things?

    Are single holes in the ear for girls acceptable? What about more? It seems to me that it would be odd to draw the line at a certain number of holes. Maybe it is the intention with which we pierce our bodies, if it is for decoration or for the purpose of destroying what God has given us? But in that case it seems that piercing for decoration would be vain and wrong anyway. However, is it vain to want to look nice? And is it wrong to want to "express yourself" with earings and other jewelry?

    Also, if ear piercing is acceptable, then why wouldn't tattooing be (if we do it for decoration and not sadistic destruction)? Would it also matter what the tattoo is of? For example, if one enjoys Japanese art, would it be considered sadistic to get a tattoo of a small Japanese dragon?

    A deacon has told me that one's outside appearance does not matter as much as one's inner spirituality, and that as long as anything one does to one's body can be covered respectfully in church, and that the person leads a Christian lifestyle and does not do such things for sadistic purposes, then that is what is important. But then again, would one necessarily KNOW if he/she is doing something for sadistic purposes? Is it possible that the devil would work in such a way that you are not aware of it, even if you feel that your actions are not out of some kind of passion? I know that I have given you quite a lot of questions, and I appreciate your taking the time to answer them!

    A.

    You are not alone in asking these questions. They have been the subject of a lot of discussion throughout the Church. Well, after some serious prayer, thought, and putting heads together we have come up with the following.

    Your question mainly deals with body piercing and tattoos. The deacon you spoke with you gave you a good answer and you should keep it in mind as you read the rest of this. Remember the Church has teachings about these things to serve as a guide to help us live lives connected with God and our neighbor. It does not condemn people who have tattoos or piercings. The Church teaches that we shouldn't do anything to "disfigure" our bodies (which technically would include any type of piercing -- including ears as well as tattoos -- since the body is a beautiful thing created by God to help us glorify Him. Nor, however, should we do anything that draws attention to ourselves and away from God. Getting parts of our body pierced or getting a tattoo is telling people, "Look at me!" This is one of the reasons the deacon said that it should be somewhere that could be respectfully covered in Church.

    This is not to say that we shouldn't try to look nice. It's true that some people do like the look of tattoos. They are an all-out fad at the moment. And in fact, there is often a confused notion that modesty in dress means making yourself look like some type of peasant. Simply put, we should try to look our natural best and shouldn't do anything to draw attention either for admiration or shock purposes.

    Many of the saints told people to stop doing something, not because it was intrinsically wrong, but because it led other people into temptation. This is hard for us to hear in 1999 America, where everyone does what he/she wants and if someone doesn't like it "it's his/her problem." The Christian understanding is just the opposite. We must love our neighbor so much that his/her problem is our problem. If we are Christians then we believe that, as the Church, we are all connected as one body, and if one part of that body hurts, then the whole body (including us) hurts.

    I hope this gives some clarity on the issue. The truth is that the Church's teaching about this relates to everyone of us who tries to do anything for attention and not just tattoos and piercings. Flashy jewelry, fancy watches, and expensive clothes can also be very distracting. We all need to change our perspective, treat our bodies as a gift from God, and worry less about impressing or shocking "the Joneses" and more about how God sees us.

    Since this has taken up a bit of space, we didn't address your question about doing things for the wrong reason without even knowing it and the role of Satan. If you (or any of our other readers) are interested, we can talk about that in a future issue.

    If you have a question, or know a friend who does, send it to youth@oca.org ­- we promise to do our best to answer it clearly, concisely, and honestly!


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